OVERCOMING LONELINESS

Sitting in a cozy robe, curled up on the sofa, drinking a hot cup of chai, in front of a wood-burning fire place, gazing out the window of a log cabin in the middle of nowhere, watching the snow falling faster than anything I'd ever seen before I had a thought , "I wish my friend was here with me enjoying this."

As I stood up and walked to the window, I knew that I was meant to be there alone. The second that realization left my mind, an avalanche broke loose from the mountainside and within a blink of an eye I was trapped under a ton of ice and snow. I could feel my skin going numb from the coldness. My limbs were crushed and the pain was almost unbearable. With each breath I took getting shorter and shorter, I had to remind myself to stay calm. At which point, a supernatural peace warmed my entire being. Then I woke up.

This was one of many dreams that the Lord gave to me so I could get revelation. In this particular dream, I knew exactly what He was revealing to me.

Being alone is a difficult task - one that very few deliberately choose. The first man Adam was created and God said man was not meant to dwell alone so, from his rib he created a helpmate - a woman.

If you are an only child, I'm sure at times you were envious of others that had siblings. I'm equally sure the children that had siblings at times wished they were the only child. A double-edged sword at best.

For the most part, we often look forward to some type of solitude. Especially if you come from a household that has few places to be by yourself. I guess that's why many find seclusion in the bathroom (until somebody else is in need) haha.

Purposed isolation, or in other words, deliberately separating yourself for a significant reason and/or purpose, can benefit us all greatly. I knew several years ago that in order for me to change my life entirely, I had to sit at a "table for one."

Jesus Himself demonstrated the significance of separating yourself from the masses for a period of time. In doing this, you will be able to give more of yourself upon reentering your social network.

Dinners with friends, correspondences, parties, events, television shows, social media and daily chats with my family all were kept at a minimal during my "cocooning." I found that I actually enjoy life without having my phone glued to my hands.

Awakening from my dream, I understood the heaviness, the weight, the pressure, the darkness, the coldness and the loneliness that I felt was only temporary. Only once I calmed my thoughts, then I was able to feel the serenity, the peace, and the tranquility.

Whatever reasons for separation, if you begin to enjoy yourself, actually embrace your own company, then you will find peace. Use this time to self reflect and become a better version.

However, there are periods of separation that we don't choose, wouldn't ever choose, and we sometimes question why we are left alone.

My newly found elderly friend was married for over 50 years. Fifty years is older than I am and is a milestone of marriage that is definitely a rarity. Sadly, his wife recently passed away. My friend has been dealing with the changes that accompany the departure of his helpmate. Thankfully he is handling it well.

Losing a loved one is a pain that is deeper than words can articulate. Feeling abandoned, isolated, or desolation are typical emotions that are associated with grief. There is, however, a fine line between grief and depression. I can confidently say that your loved one that passed would be devastated to watch you go into a deep depression. I always try to remind those dealing with death to think of all the good memories they had together. It's ok to cry. It's ok to laugh out loud. It's ok to be happy and enjoy your future. I am speaking from experience. I buried my first born, my father, my mother and a lot of close friends/loved ones.

Death isn't the only devastating separation that we face at times. Infidelity of a spouse, betrayal of a best friend, termination of employment at a job that we devoted our whole lives to, are also definitions of the hardest types of isolation.

Turning bitter, angry, resentful, embarrassed, or hopeless is exactly the opposite of God's highest purpose for us. Establishing your thoughts, staying focused on your goals, understanding that the peace of God can supersede every situation, will allow you to get through the unexpected and sometimes expected time period of being alone.

We are God's highest form of creation. We have dominion over every situation that we face.

YOU ARE DESIGNED TO REIGN IN LIFE

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