TWO FACED

One of my sisters and I have children that are close in age.

I believe there is a fine line between giving your children privacy and monitoring their interactions.

So I try hard not to eaves drop on their conversations when they are on the phone with their cousins but sometimes it's hard not to.

I happened to be in the same room as them and part of their chat caught my attention.

Their conversation was so serious and they were all in agreement saying, "yeah, I know my mom does it too!!"

Hearing that definitely peeked my interest so I asked what are they talking about.

In retrospect, that may not have been the best decision I made and moving forward I might think twice before being nosey.

My daughter answered, "we hear you on the phone with your business and you talk like this (and she began imitating me being 'professional') then when you talk with Aunt Shalon you talk like this (and she began mocking me talking really 'ghetto')."

That's when my sister's son chimed in and starting mocking his mom and how she talks to co-workers verses friends.

They were laughing so hard, rolling around on the floor, trying their best to copy us. It seemed they got a real kick out of themselves at their mother's expense.

Meanwhile, my sister and I were trying our best to refute them. But the truth is, they were 100% accurate.

I understand that we need to be formal/informal depending on the situation. That is a sign of maturity.

However, are we "two-faced" in other areas of our lives?

Is it ok for us to be "two-faced" in certain instances but not others?

When I was growing up, the definition of "two-faced" was when you talked about one friend to another friend. Now that I'm older, I think that is inaccurate.

Back to my question, is it ok? If the answer is yes, then which one is the real version of yourself?

If the answer is no, does that mean you are acting or pretending to be a specific way when you really aren't?

What I know is that I have some absolutes in my life. No matter who I am with, or where I am at, I behave, think and speak in the same manner.

In absolutely every situation, under any circumstance, I remain the same. At my core, that is who I truly am.

When others are watching or when I think no-one is watching, I will carry myself identical.

In the depth of our beings, we need to have some irrefutable, non-negotiable "rules" that we adhere to.

We cannot go through life as chameleons - changing our ways according to the company we keep.

Growth comes when you can go against what your friends, family or peers are doing especially if it doesn't line up with your beliefs.

Trust me, being in a room when you are the only one sober will certainly test your perseverance.

Or using company time while you're on social media because everyone else in the office does it.

Not taking the grocery cart back because the walk is too far and nobody else cared enough to either.

There are a plethora of examples I could give but we build character by doing what we know to be right despite what others are doing.

Excusing yourself from compromising situations, conversations and circumstances will ensure you walk with excellence and dignity.

YOU ARE DESIGNED TO REIGN IN LIFE

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