REFRAME REALITY

I'm going to share with you a couple of stories that one is as recent as yesterday whereas the other dates back years.

My children weren't always homeschooled. The journey began due to the shutdown from COVID.

After things reopened, I put both of my kids back in person. Several deciding factors made me decide to homeschool until they were in higher grades.

Soon after I unenrolled my son state testing began. I was under the impression that he needed to go to the school he was once registered in and do his testing there.

At this point he had only been out of school for one week. The first day of testing his teacher asked if he wanted to stay for lunch with his classmates but my son didn't bring one so she told him the next time to be sure to.

The following week was his second round of testing and he eagerly packed his lunch. Sadly, the school secretary and principal told him that because he was no longer a student he could not stay for lunch.

Seeing your child's feelings hurt is a pain that is almost unbearable.

So I reacted as most would and I went full "Karen" on both of them, going as far as marching straight down to the Board of Education.

Right, wrong or indifferent, I had so much anger towards the school that even driving past reignited the fire that got my blood boiling.

This went on for weeks, maybe even months. I had to drive by the school every time I left my house so you can just about count how often I was allowing this offense to trap me.

One day I decided that I was not even going to look in the direction of the school. Their billboard is huge displaying different messages throughout the weeks and I purposely drove with my hand blocking the right side of my view.

I did this up until I no longer felt angry.

I would like to tell you that it only took 3 days and all of my bitterness disappeared but the truth is it took months.

I actually forgot all of the details that once invaded my mind, I no longer carried resentment towards the staff at his school and eventually I was able to read their billboards again.

In fact, I ran into the secretary the other day and I was genuine in my salutation towards her.

Note that while I was in the depths of anger I didn't want to be there. I tried hard to ignore the initial pain but it was something I was unable to do easily.

The second story I want to share with you is this.

My daughter did a craft about a week ago and every day all day I kept finding this pink elephant glitter.

I spend upwards of 3 hours every morning cleaning the entire house thoroughly so when I finally finish I like to see a clean house.

However, even after vacuuming and mopping, I was continuously finding these pink elephants EVERYWHERE.

I was furious with her. Each time I bent over to pick one up I felt my level of frustration rise.

This went on for days and just when I was about to go buck wild a thought came to me.

I'm going to pretend that each time I find one it's God's way of showing me something good is on its way.

When I tell you the minute I switched my perspective finding these pink elephants became exhilarating!!

I could hardly wait until I found another one. I would sweep and mop as usual, but then I would tip-toe around the house trying to see if I could spot one afterwards.

Most of the time I couldn't but the minute I wasn't looking one showed up.

The thing that caused me so much annoyance became a thrill.

Some might think who cares if your house has little specks on the floor and I would say I do. I actually care a lot.

So the reason I'm sharing both of these very different yet seemingly common stories with you is because sometimes we need to reframe our reality even if it means blocking it with our hand until we can look at it unbothered.

Other times we need to create a game out of an annoyance in order to laugh at its existence.

Often times we make excuses for our limitations and get others to even agree with us but ultimately we end up placing our foot on the hose stopping the flow of peace, tranquility, joy, and happiness.

I've said this to you many times, if you can't change a situation change how you look at it.

It's not a play on words, it's actually a blueprint to freedom.

YOU ARE DESIGNED TO REIGN IN LIFE

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